Today we conclude our series on Proverbs having looked at anger, words, work, righteousness and money. There were several other things we could have also addressed, that we touched on some, like justice, prudence, obedience, happiness, marriage and relationships and what all these things tell us about God and faith. But we conclude with the one issue that really needs to be dealt with these days, and it was in fact the only theme that someone asked me to talk about and that is what has become known as the Proverbs 31 woman. The passage we heard this morning, at least for a portion of the church, has become one of the most used, and I would argue one of the most abused passages in scripture. Rachel Held Evans, a prophet that we lost way too soon several years ago, wrote in her wonderful book A Year of Biblical Womanhood, “In the [Fundamentalist] Christian subculture, there are three people a girl’s got to know about before she [hits puberty]: 1) Jesus. 2) Ronald Reagan, and 3) the Proverbs 31 woman… Wander into any Christian women’s conference and you will hear her name… [and] Visit a Christian bookstore, and you will find entire women’s sections devoted to books that extol her… [visit any] Christian College” and you will find guys wanting to date her and girls trying to be her.
The Proverbs 31 woman has been held up as the ideal woman. She has become the standard by which women, if they want to be biblical will be judged and the passage is sort of a checklist against women. And that’s all fine and good, if damaging, except for the fact that the portrayal here, or of seeing her as the ideal woman, has nothing to actually do with what’s being portrayed in the passage. And that’s on top of the fact that this being the model of the traditional and ideal woman doesn’t match the reality that what’s upheld as traditional as their image and role for women is very new. And so, I am going to propose an entirely different way of seeing and viewing the Proverbs 31 woman, that I believe is not only more authentic to the text, but also to the tradition of the passage. But I’m getting ahead of myself. First things first. Way back in our first message on Proverbs one of the things I said was that while proverbs are true, they are not always universally true. That is that different proverbs are true in different circumstances and so they will often contradict each other, such as we say that birds of a feather flock together but opposites attract. Both are seemingly true, even though they say the opposite thing. Similarly, proverbs can’t always be taken literally. We have to seek the truth of the message while not forcing them beyond what they are telling us, and when we try and read them as being literally true they tend to fall apart. So, we have to keep that in mind when we think about the image of this woman portrayed in Proverbs 31, that this is not a task list, a job description for the ideal woman, and to treat it as such as destructive to everyone involved, men and women.
